Κυριακή, 17 Απριλίου 2011

How To Avoid Becoming A Grumpy Old Man

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In the UK, there is a TV series ‘Grumpy Old Men’. I think it is supposed to be a comedy program, where middle aged men rant and complain about everything from the price of petrol to the overbearing popularity of American Idol. In a way their complaints are mildly amusing, but, it did get me thinking. Is that how I want to be in 20-30 years, always complaining and being grumpy? Often we see people who, in their early life, have a sympathetic, hopeful and positive mind. But, 30 years later, those positive qualities have slowly been eroded and replaced with a propensity towards being grumpy, miserable and negative. How can we ensure that we avoid the ‘grumpy old man’ syndrome and remain positive throughout our advancing years?




Don't Get Stuck in A Rut


When we get stuck in a rut, life seems listless and boring. When there is no newness in life we have more time to observe the failings of others, ourselves and the world. If we are always complaining about the same things in life, try to do something different. Unfortunately, it is possible to develop a subtle enjoyment of being negative. The mind gets a certain misplaced pleasure by being grumpy and complaining. But, this kind of happiness is extremely limited. Look for ways to observe life in a new way; remain dynamic and don't leave yourself time to become overwhelmed with negativity. If necessary, force yourself to try a completely new skill or activity.




Don't Get Exasperated Over Things You Have No Control


If the price of oil increases, there is not much you can do about it. Just because you incessantly complain about the price of oil, Saudi Arabia is not going to start producing an extra 10 million barrels a day. If you get upset things like this, you will invariably make yourself miserable. To some extent, we have to be accepting of external things beyond our control. For example, Governments always have and always will do things which are popular; we can't expect this to change. But, what we can do is change our attitude. Rather than getting worked up by these things, we can develop a greater sense of detachment. Don't allow your life to be dominated by complaints on the outside world.








Have the Perspective of a Young Child


We never refer to ‘grumpy young children’. True, a child may have a temporary bad mood; but, they will soon shake it off. To a child the world is simple and a place of wonder. Life is not complicated but something to enjoy. A child does not spend his time criticizing things, he just plays and enjoys life. The problem is that we feel that because we are sophisticated adults we must be much better. But, how is it progress if we move from a positive attitude to a miserable attitude? It doesn't matter how old we are; what matters is our inner attitude. If we can feel we have a childlike heart it will help considerably in avoiding grumpiness. Even observing the simple smile of a child will help put a smile on our face. – Life Lessons we can learn from children




Leave Criticism To Others


Criticism and grumpiness are intricately linked. If we spend all our time criticizing and gossiping about others, we will develop a negative mindset. The problem is that in this world it is easy to find things to criticize. The truth is we could spend all day judging and criticizing other people and we would not have even made a start. The world is not going to change just because we sit in a pub criticizing others. What happens is that as we criticize the world, it gives us a subconscious feeling of superiority and this motivates us to spend more time criticizing. However, if we want real happiness, we have to take a positive attitude; looking for good things to encourage – making a positive contribution. The world does not need more grumpy old men. There are always going to be plenty of people to complain about the level of taxes; what we need is positive people who will help make a difference.




Be Flexible


As we get older, if we are not careful, we can become more inflexible. We want and expect things to be done in a certain way. It becomes more difficult for us to accept change. This demanding attitude can make us very grumpy when things don't go as we expect. We need to be like a tree; in the wind the branches are flexible and sway in the wind. If they couldn't bend they would snap. Getting old doesn't mean we have to become ‘stuck in our ways’; we can be flexible even as we approach old age.




Self Awareness


It is important to be aware of our own state of mind; grumpiness and a negative attitude is often something that creeps up on us without realizing it. Maybe after a while we feel depressed and unhappy, but, we don’t realize it is because of our own negative mental attitude. If we really want to remain cheerful and positive, then we will make it happen. We need to keep evaluating our attitude towards life – if we are becoming a grumpy old man, make a resolution to change.




Positive Attitude


If we want to avoid being miserable, the most effective strategy is to focus on the opposite which is the positive in life. Instead of criticizing people, try to look for good qualities to encourage. Instead of thinking of the things you can't do, try beginning new activities and initiatives. A positive attitude will also be easier, if we remain busy and dynamic. If we are idle, it is easier for the critical mind to come to the fore.





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